Years ago even saying those words would make me shudder. Surely I would never do something like that to my husband. How deceitful and callous and wrong. Actually for the last eight years I haven’t thought that way at all, my issue has been more ‘where would I find a man to have an affair with in the first place?’
But I have and he adores me. He is divorced so has been through a marriage breakup and can identify with the issues and problems facing me. He wants to be there to support me, to give me strength, to help in any way he can. And if at some stage I say it’s all over, well, that will be fine too, he just wants me to be happy.
So, someone, please clarify for me what counts as a affair.
Thinking about another man other than your husband?
Emailing another man and flirting, perhaps sending pictures of yourself?
Deceiving your husband by meeting with another man, even if all that happens is a hug?
Kissing another man? Hugging another man? Having sex with another man?
Just being with another man, laughing, caring, sharing?
At the moment I am falling into the latter category, although there has been quite a lot of kissing and hugging. The first time he took me in his arms and cuddled me I felt tears streaming down my face – no one has held me like that for so long.
I think I know the answer to my own question. Yes. It has to be a Yes because I can’t say it’s a No.